Tips for providing post-match feedback to your kid
IS IT OKAY NOT TO GIVE FEEDBACK ABOUT THE MATCH?
Of course it is okay not to talk about the match. Often times the best thing you can do for your child is give them support, especially after a tough loss. Everybody has a role to play and sometimes it's best to be the parent and let the coach reflect on the match with the player
START BY ASKING YOUR CHILD : When would you like to talk about the match?
Kids differ in how and when they are most receptive to receiving feedback. Allow your child to tell you when they’re ready
WHEN YOUR CHILD IS READY: Ask them 2 questions
What do you think went well?
What would you improve upon for next time?
Gets them to assess the match and problem solve
Gives them a voice so they feel listened to
NOW IT’S YOUR TURN: Start with something positive
Gives them confidence, which is a necessity for performing well in this sport!
Psychologists recommend a 3-1 positive to negative comment ratio to see results - meaning if you are always telling your child what they are doing wrong you run the risk of undermining their confidence
KEEP IT SIMPLE: Tie it to the player’s goals or priorities
The first law of learning is that kids only learn one skill at a time - hearing a consistent message in practice, lessons and post-match ensures a clear focus
If you aren’t sure of your kids goals, check with the coach they take privates from
PROCESS OVER OUTCOME: Praise the process or performance instead of the outcome
The science of performance is that the more a player is focused on the process (their performance goals/ things they control), the better they will play, whereas the more a player is focused on the outcome (score, winning...), the more they will underperform.