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Giving Feedback

Updated: Nov 26, 2020

Tips for providing post-match feedback to your kid


  • Of course it is okay not to talk about the match. Often times the best thing you can do for your child is give them support, especially after a tough loss. Everybody has a role to play and sometimes it's best to be the parent and let the coach reflect on the match with the player

START BY ASKING YOUR CHILD : When would you like to talk about the match?


  • Kids differ in how and when they are most receptive to receiving feedback. Allow your child to tell you when they’re ready

WHEN YOUR CHILD IS READY: Ask them 2 questions

  1. What do you think went well?

  2. What would you improve upon for next time?


  • Gets them to assess the match and problem solve

  • Gives them a voice so they feel listened to

NOW IT’S YOUR TURN: Start with something positive


  • Gives them confidence, which is a necessity for performing well in this sport!

  • Psychologists recommend a 3-1 positive to negative comment ratio to see results - meaning if you are always telling your child what they are doing wrong you run the risk of undermining their confidence

KEEP IT SIMPLE: Tie it to the player’s goals or priorities


  • The first law of learning is that kids only learn one skill at a time - hearing a consistent message in practice, lessons and post-match ensures a clear focus

  • If you aren’t sure of your kids goals, check with the coach they take privates from

PROCESS OVER OUTCOME: Praise the process or performance instead of the outcome


  • The science of performance is that the more a player is focused on the process (their performance goals/ things they control), the better they will play, whereas the more a player is focused on the outcome (score, winning...), the more they will underperform.

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